My life in general hasn’t been the most stable. Not in a feel bad for me kind of way. Just in a sometimes I feel like I have lived my entire life at sea and then randomly I was thrown on to land. And just when I got my barrings on land I was then moved to the space station to live in no gravity. The only real good thing in the mix is I have had to learn how to be flexible, trust Jesus and transition well; notice I didn’t say NOT MESSY or not FULL OF TEARS. You can totally transition well in a messy or intenso circumstance. Yep, it’s possible. The key is to transition with a win under your belt in lieu of all the mess transitions tend to leave. So, from a person who even more lately has become a gold medalist at transition and change I’ll give you a couple real world tips that have helped me.
It’s okay to be sad.
Transition is hard, and not everyone really enjoys change. So whether you’re shifting in your life, job, or relationships take the time to cry / be sad about it. It’s OKAY, God is big enough to hear your complaints & catch your tears. He’s big enough and God enough to accept the fact that we are human and that we might not embrace shifts well. Also, if you and God are truly friends, He looks forward to those conversations. Oh Dang, that’s a good word right there! ( cue the shofar! )
Time doesn’t heal all wounds .
Someone told me right after my grandmother died that time heals all wounds. Um, I wanted to punch them in the throat for saying that because I knew that time would never heal that wound and that that loss would always be felt. I have found that the only thing time does is give you space to pull yourself together and not be led by your emotions. So when the reflection of the transition or loss comes flooding back you can handle it with more grace, more maturity. If you’re waiting for time to heal your wound or to help you “find closure” then you’ll be waiting a while; only Jesus heals wounds and closure isn’t found, its accepted.
Moving on doesn’t mean moving fast nor does it mean jumping right into the transition with open arms. It means you have put one foot in front of the other and you’re moving forward. Don’t mistake your small steps for not moving on. Your heart and mind will eventually catch up to your feet.
Side note: These are in no particular order, I am still working on all of these and it’s not a perfected system, it’s just what works for me. No matter what changes you may be facing know that YOU control the transition, it doesn’t control you