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Love, Life Lessons & Navigating Dead Ends

April 4, 2015

If you’ve spent anytime with me at all you would find that I am what they call “an all or nothing” type-a-gal. I don’t embrace gray areas, and I tend to see things in black and white. So as a kid when mom would tell us to allow LOVE to be the solution I took that for face value. It was incredibly common in my home growing up to hear my mom say,

Love covers all ( when I tattled on my siblings )

Love never fails  ( when I wanted to give up on something I cherished )

Love is the answer ( when I felt betrayed )

Love? Got It!

A quick thank you to mom for instilling that value into my soul! I am so thankful that love became my guide, my compass, my map in this life. But if I’ve learned anything in this life it’s that many times love without wisdom, restraint or perspective can lead us to what we may perceive as a dead end. And if we are not careful we will remain there. I recently found myself heading down a road where I saw the dead end sign from a far and I immediately defaulted to my original setting and solution …love. I prayed and did everything I knew to do with love being my filter. But alas, at the end of the road the answer I desired was not the answer I received. What I found at the end of this road was a life lesson that is now painfully written on the tablet of my heart and my hope in sharing it today is that it encourages someone out there perhaps walking down a similar road.

At the end of this road and for the first time in 33 years I found myself asking God, “what do you do when LOVE doesn’t seem to work?” I remember praying and going back to 1 Corinthians 13…


Love puts up with anything and everything that comes along; it trusts, hopes, and endures no matter what. Love will never become obsolete…


I can still remember the day I read this passage and the tears fell down my face. I was so upset and I as usual began to wrestle and dialogue with my savior , “Lord, Love is never obsolete! This is wrong, Love is never done…” and like He’s so lovingly done so many times before, He whispered, “Love is never done Chari, but Love knows when to let go.”

….I’ll give you a minute to process that…





I almost threw my phone across the room when He dropped that bomb in my heart, and then I ugly cried. In that moment I immediately knew the only thing I could do was open my ninja grip and let it go. Today, I am thankful that I am on the other side of this circumstance ( sigh ) and as I sit hear the day before Easter the Lord again softly reminded me of this situation JUST to make sure I am living with my palm open. As I drink my flat white in a crowded starbucks He reminded me that even on the cross there was that moment where He had to let go with the words, It is finished. I’m learning in this season Love may be asked to let go, way more than its asked to hold on and that there are things we will have to let die in order for God to resurrect them and for His plan to come full circle. I’m navigating the epic but difficult truth that in most circumstances the greatest expression of love is surrender. Lord, thank you for teaching me how to let go and for showing us on this Easter weekend that surrender and sacrifice are the most beautiful ways we can show how much we love you and how much you love us.


My friend, be encouraged. Know that though not every road you will travel will be easy, every road you travel He will be with you.
xo Chari


1 Comment

  • Reply Lana Wells April 6, 2015 at 5:08 am

    Thank you….

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